Dating has experienced several changes and has adapted to newer trends. Before the 1940s and World War II, dating was a form of courtship well monitored by the parents or guidance of both parties. However, things began to take a new turn after World War II, setting a standard for what we now know as dating.
Suitors, Sweethearts, and Parents
Dating in the 1950s was more of a formalized procedure of getting to know each other. Interested young couples relate more by attending a series of fun activities while being monitored by their parents to keep them in check.
In the absence of a guardian, couples were encouraged to go on group dates to ensure they kept each other in check. Since this rarely worked, some communities decided to create acceptable courtship behavior rules that couples must adhere to during a date.
Table Manners and Gentlemanly Gestures
One lost culture in today’s dating scene is chivalry and gentlemanly gestures. In the 1950s, there was a strict adherence to dating social etiquette. Men were required to open doors, pull out chairs, and compliment their date.
On the other hand, women were advised to maintain a polite demeanor, show up beautifully, attend the date on time, and accommodate their date. Unlike today, splitting the bills or requesting your lady to pay for the date was deemed emasculating.
Cruising and Cuddling
Another prominent trend from the 50s that was passed down to today’s dating culture was car dates. In the 1950s, visiting drive-in theaters was a perfect way to have fun and also display romantic affection without getting caught.
With the strict courtship rules in place, many couples use this opportunity to know their dates a little better. Many communities employ a watchdog police force to help break couples engaging in activities beyond the stated rules and regulations.
Pinned Corsages
Today, we only see corsages during seasonal events like prom, but in the 50s, corsages were a must-have for any couple. During formal dates, the man was required to present a pinned flower corsage as his sign of affection, as well as bring along a bouquet.
The lifelong culture of presenting your date with flowers comes from the consumerist, materialistic culture of the post-war era. The world experienced a sudden economic boom, and men were encouraged to buy consumer goods like food and flowers regularly to boost the economy.
Lips on Lockdown
In today’s dating scene, public display of affection in courtship is acceptable in most cultures. However, the 50s maintained a strict rule of morality. This set of regulations prevents couples from kissing or displaying romantic affection in public or theaters.
It is believed that after a date, the man must shake her hands and walk her home, as any other form of intimate interaction is frowned upon. This rule holds for young couples getting acquainted with one another, as older (or married) couples may sometimes show affection.
